Ruth Westheimer
Karola Ruth Westheimer (Yuni 4, 1928 - Yuli 12, 2024), wanda aka fi sani da Dr. Ruth,wata Bajamushe ne da Ba'amurke mai ilimin jima'i kuma mai masaukin baki. An haifi Westheimer a Jamus ga dangin Bayahude. Yayin da ‘yan Nazi suka hau kan karagar mulki, iyayenta sun tura yarinyar ‘yar shekara 10 a wata makaranta a kasar Switzerland domin tsira da rayukansu yayin da suka tsaya a baya saboda tsohuwar kakarta.[1] Dukansu an kashe su ne a sansanonin tara jama'a. Bayan yakin duniya na biyu, ta yi hijira zuwa Falasdinu na wajibi a karkashin ikon Birtaniya.Bayan yakin duniya na biyu, ta yi hijira zuwa Falasdinu na wajibi a karkashin ikon Birtaniya. Da tsayin taku 4 da inci 7 (cm 140) kuma tana da shekara 17, ta shiga Haganah, kuma an horar da ta a matsayin maharbi.[2]A ranar zagayowar ranar haihuwarta ta 20, ta sami rauni a wani mataki da wani harsashi ya fashe a lokacin gobarar turmi a Urushalima a lokacin Yaƙin ‘Yancin Isra’ila na 1947 – 1949, kuma ya kusan rasa ƙafafu biyu. Shekaru biyu bayan haka, Westheimer ta koma Paris, Faransa, inda ta karanta ilimin halin dan Adam a Sorbonne. Ta yi hijira zuwa Amurka a 1956, ta yi aiki a matsayin kuyanga don saka kanta a makarantar digiri, ta sami Master of Arts a ilimin zamantakewa daga New School a 1959, kuma ta sami digiri na uku yana da shekaru 42 daga Kwalejin Malamai, Jami'ar Columbia, a 1970. . A cikin shekaru goma masu zuwa, ta koyar a jami'o'i da yawa kuma ta yi aikin gyaran jima'i na sirri. Aikin watsa labarai na Westheimer ya fara ne a cikin 1980 tare da nunin kiran kiran rediyo na Magana da Jima'i, wanda ya ci gaba har zuwa 1990.A cikin 1983 ita ce mafi girman wasan kwaikwayon rediyo a babbar kasuwar rediyon ƙasar. Sannan ta kaddamar da wani shirin talabijin mai suna The Dr. Ruth Show, wanda a shekarar 1985 ya ja hankalin masu kallo miliyan biyu a mako.Ta zama sananne don ba da shawara mai mahimmanci yayin da take faɗin gaskiya, amma kuma dumi, fara'a, ban dariya, da mutuntawa, da kuma kalmar tambarin ta: "Samu wasu".A cikin 1984 The New York Times ta lura cewa ta tashi "daga duhu zuwa kusan tauraro."[3]Ta dauki nauyin shirye-shirye da yawa akan Tashar Rayuwa da sauran hanyoyin sadarwar gidan talabijin na USB daga 1984 zuwa 1993.Ta zama sunan gida da manyan al'adu, ta fito a shirye-shiryen talabijin da yawa na cibiyar sadarwa, tare da yin fim tare da Gérard Depardieu, ta fito a bangon Mutane, ta rera waƙa a kan kundin Tom Chapin, ta fito a tallace-tallace da yawa, kuma ta dauki nauyin bidiyo na Playboy.Ita ce marubucin litattafai 45 kan jima'i da jima'i. Wasan mace ɗaya ta 2013 Zama Dr. Ruth, wanda Mark St.Germain, shine game da rayuwar Westheimer, kamar yadda yake a cikin shirin 2019, Tambayi Dr. Ruth, wanda Ryan White ya jagoranta.An shigar da ita cikin Gidan Rediyon Fame, kuma an ba ta lambar yabo ta Magnus Hirschfeld, Medal na Ellis Island Medal, Medal Leo Baeck, Kyautar Iyayen Iyaye Margaret Sanger, da Order of Merit na Tarayyar Jamus.
Rayuwa da ilimi
gyara sasheJamus
An haifi Westheimer Karola Ruth Siegel, a ƙauyen Wiesenfeld (yanzu ɓangaren Karlstadt am Main), a Jamus.[4]Ita kaɗai ce ɗiyar Yahudawan Orthodox, Irma (née Hanauer), ma'aikacin gida, da Julius Siegel, mai sayar da kayayyaki kuma ɗan gidan da Irma ya yi wa aiki.[5]Tun tana ɗan shekara ɗaya, ta zauna a wani gida a Frankfurt tare da iyayenta da kakarta, Selma, wadda gwauruwa ce.[6][7]Mahaifinta ya ba ta tushe a cikin addinin Yahudanci, wanda ya kai ta a kai a kai zuwa majami'a a gundumar Nordend na Frankfurt, inda suke zama.[8] Mahaifinta, mai shekaru 38 a lokacin, 'yan Nazi sun tafi da shi, inda suka tura shi sansanin taro na Dachau mako guda bayan Kristallnacht, "Night of Broken Glass", lokacin da 'yan Nazi suka kona shaguna na Yahudawa 10,000 da kuma gidajen Yahudawa. da majami'u, a cikin Nuwamba 1938.[9]Ta yi kuka yayin da ’yan Gestapo suka tafi da mahaifinta suka loda shi a mota, yayin da kakarta ta ba da kuɗin Nazi, tana roƙon, "Ka kula da ɗana sosai."
Switzerland
gyara sasheMahaifiyar Westheimer da kakarsa sun yanke shawarar cewa Jamus na Nazi na da haɗari a gare ta, saboda karuwar tashin hankalin Nazi.Saboda haka, ƴan makonni bayan haka, a cikin Janairu 1939, sun aika da ita a Kindertransport, wani jirgin kasa na ceto yaran Yahudawa zuwa Switzerland, ko da yake ba ta so ta tafi.[10]Ruth, wadda a lokacin tana ’yar shekara 10, ba a sake rungumar su ba sa’ad da take yarinya.[11] Ta isa gidan marayu na wata ƙungiyar agaji ta Yahudawa a Heiden, Switzerland, a matsayin ɗaya daga cikin yara Yahudawa 300, wasu kuma ba su kai shekara shida ba.[12]A ƙarshen Yaƙin Duniya na Biyu, kusan dukansu marayu ne, domin iyayensu ba su fita daga Jamus ba kuma ‘yan Nazi sun kashe su.[13]A gidan marayun an ba ta aikin tsaftacewa kuma ta dauki nauyin mai kulawa da uwa ga yara kanana.[14]Ta zauna a gidan marayu na tsawon shekaru shida.[15]’Yan mata a gidan marayun ba a ba su damar daukar darasi a makarantar nan.Sai dai wani yaro da ke makarantar ya ba ta aron littattafansa da daddare don ta iya karanta su a asirce kuma ta ci gaba da karatun ta.[16]Yayin da yake a gidan marayu na Swiss, Westheimer ta yi rubutu da mahaifiyarta da kakarta ta wasiƙu. Wasiƙunsu sun ƙare a 1941,[17]lokacin da aka kora iyayenta da kakarta zuwa Łódź Ghetto a ranar 20 ga Oktoba 1941.[18]A can, mahaifinta da mahaifiyarsa sun mutu a shekara ta 1942.[19]Kafin ta fahimci hakan daga baya a rayuwarta, ta yi imani cewa an kashe mahaifinta a sansanin taro na Auschwitz a shekara ta 1942.[20]Babu wani bayani game da takamaiman yanayin mutuwar mahaifiyarta. A cikin bayanan da ke Cibiyar Tunawa da Holocaust ta Yad Vashem ta Duniya, an rarraba mahaifiyar Westheimer a matsayin verschollen, ko "bacewa/kisa".[21]Baya ga iyayen Westheimer, duk sauran 'yan uwanta sun rasa rayukansu a lokacin Holocaust.[22] Shekaru da yawa, ta rayu tare da "laifi marar hankali"; a tunaninta da ta zauna a Jamus zata iya ceton iyayenta.Daga baya, ta ce laifin ya maye gurbinsa da nuna sha'awar sadaukarwar da iyayenta suka yi wajen aike ta da ita, tana mai cewa: "Ba zan samu karfin gwiwa ba na kori 'ya'yana kamar haka."[23]
Sana'a
gyara sasheBayan ta sami digiri na uku, Westheimer a takaice ta yi aiki a Planned Parenthood a Harlem horar da mata don koyar da ilimin jima'i, kuma wannan ƙwarewar ta ƙarfafa ta ta ci gaba da nazarin jima'i na ɗan adam.[24]Ta ci gaba da aiki a matsayin mai bincike na postdoctoral a Asibitin New York-Presbyterian.[25]Ta ci gaba da aiki a can a matsayin abokiyar farfesa na tsawon shekaru biyar. Ta kuma koyar a Kwalejin Lehman, Kwalejin Brooklyn, Kwalejin Hunter, Jami'ar Adelphi, Jami'ar Columbia, Jami'ar Yale, Jami'ar Princeton, Jami'ar New York, New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center/Weill Cornell Medicine, da West Point.[26]Ta yi wa majinyata maganin jima'i a cikin wani aiki mai zaman kansa, a kan titin Gabas na 73rd akan Upper East Side na Manhattan.[27]
Rayuwa ta sirri da mutuwa
gyara sasheWestheimer ta yi aure sau uku, karo na farko ga sojan Isra'ila kuma dalibin likitanci David Bar-Heim na tsawon shekaru biyar, kuma a karo na biyu a takaice ga Dan Bommer, wanda ta haifi 'yarta, Miriam, wanda daga baya ya dauki sunan mahaifinta.[28]Ta ce kowanne aurenta ya taka muhimmiyar rawa wajen ba da shawarar dangantakarta, amma bayan saki biyu aurenta ne na uku, tana da shekara 32 ga wani dan uwanta na Holocaust Manfred 'Fred' Westheimer, wannan shine "aure na gaske".[29]Ta sadu da Fred a kan ƙwanƙwasa ski a cikin Catskills.[30]Shi ma Fred ya tsere daga Jamus na Nazi.[31]Lokacin da Diane Sawyer, yin hira da ma'auratan don wasan kwaikwayo na TV 60 Minutes ta tambayi mijinta game da rayuwarsu ta jima'i, ya amsa, "'ya'yan masu yin takalma ba su da takalma."[32]Aurensu ya kai shekaru 36, har zuwa rasuwarsa a shekarar 1997.[33]Ta haifi 'ya'ya biyu: Dr. Miriam Yael Westheimer, malami, marubuci, kuma babban jami'in shirye-shirye na HIPPY International, wanda ke bunkasa ilimin yara da shirye-shiryen karatu,[34]kuma wanda ya zauna a Isra'ila na tsawon shekaru shida kuma daga baya ya auri Joel Henry Einleger, da Joel Westheimer, farfesa a Jami'ar Ottawa; tana da jikoki hudu.[35]Ta ce: "Ni gajere ne - ƙafa 4 da inci 7 - har na kasa yarda cewa wani abu zai iya girma a cikina."[36]Westheimer ya yi magana da Ingilishi, Jamusanci, Faransanci, da Ibrananci.[37] A cikin Disamba 2014, Westheimer ya kasance bako a wani bikin aure a Bronx. Angon, Rabbi Benjamin Goldschmidt, shi ne jikan matar da ta taimaka wajen ceto Westheimer daga hannun Nazi Jamus.[38] Daga cikin abubuwan da ta dame ta a karni na 21 akwai kadaicin mutane.[39]A cikin 2023, Gwamna Kathy Hochul na New York ya nada Westheimer a matsayin "Jakadan Loneliness" na farko.[40] A cikin shekarunta na ƙarshe, Westheimer ta zauna a cikin ɗimbin ɗaki mai dakuna uku a kan titin 190th "a Washington Heights inda ta yi renon 'ya'yanta biyu kuma ta shahara, bisa ga tsari".[41]Ta zauna a can, in ji ta a cikin 1995, don zama kusa da majami'u biyu da ta kasance memba (ɗaya daga cikinsu ita ce majami'ar Reform na Ikilisiyar Tabernacle Ibrananci na Washington Heights, ɗayan kuma shine Majami'ar Conservative Adath Israel na Riverdale; ta kasance memba na majami'ar Orthodox Ohav Shalom har sai da ta rufe), YMHA na Washington Heights da Inwood wanda ta kasance shugaba na 11. shekaru, da kuma "har yanzu babbar al'umma ta Jamus 'yan gudun hijirar Yakin Duniya na II".[42] Ta bayyana cewa: "Saboda kwarewara game da Holocaust, ba na son rasa abokai."[43] Westheimer ta mutu a gidanta da ke Manhattan a ranar 12 ga Yuli, 2024, tana da shekara 96.[44]
MANAZARTA
gyara sashe- ↑ Current Biography Yearbook. H. W. Wilson Company. 1987. p. 594.
- ↑ Barbara Multer (1987). The Dr Ruth Phenomenon: The Sexual Awakening of America?. Richardson & Steirman. p. 18. ISBN 9780931933479.
- ↑ https://www.timesofisrael.com/world-famous-jewish-sex-therapist-dr-ruth-westheimer-dies-at-96/
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- ↑ https://jwa.org/encyclopedia/article/westheimer-ruth
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- ↑ Christiane Amanpour (August 21, 2019). "Transcripts". CNN. Archived from the original on December 22, 2021. Retrieved December 22, 2021.
- ↑ "Ruth Westheimer at Trinity College (2004)". Trinity. Archived from the original on January 3, 2022. Retrieved January 3, 2022.
- ↑ https://whatrocks.github.io/commencement-db/2004-ruth-westheimer-trinity-college/
- ↑ Dudar, Helen (January 10, 1988). "What She Did For Love". The New York Times. Archived from the original on December 19, 2021. Retrieved December 19, 2021.
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- ↑ https://www.bild.de/news/inland/news-inland/sexual-therapeutin-ruth-westheimer-wie-die-nazis-die-familie-von-dr-ruth-zerstoe-75033268.bild.html
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- ↑ "Miriam Westheimer". LinkedIn. Retrieved July 16, 2024.
- ↑ "Miriam Westheimer to Marry in June". The New York Times. November 17, 1985. Archived from the original on December 19, 2021. Retrieved December 19, 2021.
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1986/05/04/arts/cable-tv-notes-celebrities-on-lifetime-tell-about-life-with-mother.html
- ↑ Barbara Multer (1987). The Dr Ruth Phenomenon: The Sexual Awakening of America?. Richardson & Steirman. p. 18. ISBN 9780931933479.
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/21/fashion/weddings/taking-their-time.html
- ↑ https://thedickinsonian.com/news/2020/02/20/dr-ruth-westheimer-reflects-on-life-as-sex-educator-and-orphan-of-holocaust/
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/09/nyregion/dr-ruth-loneliness-ambassador.html
- ↑ http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2013/11/dr-ruth-21-questions.html
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