Gabrielle Stanley Blair

A very short book with 28 pertinent points. One of the main issues that stood out -- that sperm can be lethal. Point #19 covers the risk of pregnancy and childbirth.

The U.S. is ranked #56 in maternal mortality among industrialized countries and maternal deaths in the U.S. are rising. In the U.S., 700 to 900 women die each year from causes related to pregnancy and childbirth. And another 49-63,000 suffer from complications such as hemorrhages or organ failure.

So when the (low) risks of abortion and Mifeprestone for a woman are cited, they need to be compared with the much higher risks of pregnancy and childbirth.

For an excellent review of this book, see Nika's from January 2023. Or better yet, read the book.

Highly recommended for women and men!… (more)

It's such an obvious argument once the script is flipped: why are we always talking about women when men are just as responsible for pregnancies, even more when you consider their fertility potential and easy access to condoms. Fundamentally what this book does is reveal the deep misogyny that is so ingrained in our culture we fail to see it at the most basic levels.
Blair does a tremendous job of showing the inequities in a few powerful simple, easy to read and grasp arguments. Her passion and humour are contagious: this book is never dull.
Certainly there is some repetition, but overall I found it a great read with relevant arguments and solutions.… (more)

(3.45 Stars)

First thought: I liked this book. period.

I wanted to like it more, especially since I completely agree with the author's main points. The included reference materials are helpful and hopefully it will open up the eyes of people who do not consider the consequences of sex, if they could bother to read it (which I doubt).

What I found myself thinking as I read this book was that when statistics and data proved her points it was used, and when other points were being declared the author seemed to heavily rely on anecdote and/or emotions, or the most extreme examples. But I want to stress, even with that being said, the book contains lots of great information, valid points, and complete facts that are a disturbing vision of how women are dehumanized when it comes to choices about their own bodies and how men think of them.

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I recently finished Ejaculate Responsibly after seeing Gabrielle Stanley Blair interviewed on a book program. She's a religious woman with 6 kids who thinks reasonably. In fact, she thinks so reasonably that this book should be required reading for every politician and religious person with an opinion on abortion. However, banning abortion has nothing to do with reason, so I'm sure most would not be swayed. Her idea is that women are fertile for just a few days a month for a few years of their lives. Men are fertile every day for almost their entire lives. If one wants to stop abortion then the only reasonable thing to do is to make sure that men ejaculate responsibly.… (more)