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Loading... The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self (1979)by Alice Miller
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Sign up for LibraryThing to find out whether you'll like this book. No current Talk conversations about this book. I found this book via a post at MetaFilter. The title is somewhat misleading...I'd have thought it was a parenting book. More usefully, it's about people who don't get what they need from their parents as kids, and how it can affect them as adults. If you don’t understand how why you do the things you do, don’t write it off as “it’s just how you are.” There is an internal prize of higher value than anything material for those who bravely seek self understanding and acceptance. I originally rated this 2 stars when I first read it. I found hard to follow. After it was recommended to me again, I gave it a 2nd chance. So glad I did; I would give it 6 or more stars if I could. I wasn’t 'ready' to read it before. I get it now and found it eye opening and fascinating. I’ll probably read it a 3rd time. Het boek legt geduldig uit hoe het drama van het begaafde kind zich voltrekt, en hoe het te herkennen valt. Destijds heel revolutionair. Gelukkig is er vandaag ook een behandeling gebaseerd op deze bevindingen (zie Ingeborg Bosch met Past Reality Integration), zodat herstel van dit drama voor iedereen bereikbaar is. Alice Miller gives the impression that she believes every child has been abused. Maybe so. I found this book confusing at times, such as when she connects war and child abuse without explanation. It also seems somewhat dated, in that she describes therapists who are unwilling to talk about childhood, whereas today that seems one of the most common topics. But the most frustrating part is that she continually refers to a four-step method that she does not explain until the last few pages of the book. no reviews | add a review
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This bestselling book examines childhood trauma and the enduring effects it has on an individual's management of repressed anger and pain. Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided millions of readers with an answer--and has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents' expectations and win their "love." Alice Miller writes, "When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb.... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth. No library descriptions found. |
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